New Year, Younger Skin

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My New Year’s resolution for 2015 is to pull a Benjamin Button and age in reverse. After hitting 52 in November, I’ve decided to test my math skills and turn 51 this year.

Fortunately, I’ve been using L’Oreal Age Perfect Cell Renewal for the past few months, so I’m already ahead of the game.

I can report that after a couple months of using the trio of products — Day Cream with SPF 15, Night Cream, and Golden Serum — my skin sincerely feels softer and more supple. Plus, those fine lines have disappeared. That’s a big PLUS.

I confess I’m not a big wearer of makeup, but I have been using the serum and day cream on a regular basis. I’ve used the night cream as the weather has become colder and drier. None has given me a greasy feeling or clogged my pores. Neither do I have too much of a shine. Simply a healthy, luminous sheen. My skin radiates “flourishing California babe.” Now I just need to work on those cottage cheese thighs.

Cyber Monday Deal

Disclosure: I am participating in a Vibrant Influencer Network campaign for L’Oreal Age Perfect. I am receiving a fee for posting; however, the opinions expressed in this post are my own. I am in no way affiliated with L’Oreal Age Perfect and do not earn a commission or percent of sales.

For those who opted out of Black Friday or just want some great deals today, Cyber Monday, then read on. L’Oreal has a gift so perfect for us Aging Gals that “perfect” is even in its name: L’Oreal Age Perfect Cell Renewal.

AP-CELL-RENEW-ASSETS-04-440x471I’ve been using their products for a couple of months now and love them. My skin is softer, firmer, and younger looking. Click here for your coupon.

Splurge on a gift for yourself this holiday season (start now and see results before those holiday parties!). And if you’re a mensch, then buy some cell renewal products for your friends. After all, you’re worth it… and they are too!




10 Reasons I’m Embracing Aging

the-health-benefits-of-red-wine1.  A glass of red wine a night can add five years to my life.

2.  Brain games on the computer to help my memory.

3.  My gray hair looks like those expensive highlights I used to pay for, but it’s free!

4.  “Good times and bum times, I’ve seen ‘em all, and, my dear, I’m still here.” (Thank you, Stephen Sondheim. And Elaine Stritch.)

5.  No more pimples.

6.  I’m closer to being a cool old broad like Judy Dench:

7.  Fuck it. What’s the alternative?

8.  At long last, chocolate is proven to be good for me.

9.  Brain games on the computer to help my memory.

10. Finally, I’ve aged into my muffin top.


Who Wouldn’t Want to Look like Julianne Moore?

I am participating in a Vibrant Influencer Network campaign for L’Oreal Age Perfect. I am receiving a fee for posting; however, the opinions expressed in this post are my own. I am in no way affiliated with L’Oreal Age Perfect and do not earn a commission or percent of sales.

When L’Oreal approached this Aging Gal through Vibrant Nation to try out their new line of skin renewal products, who was I to say “no”? If the products are good enough for their spokeperson, actress Julianne Moore, they’re good enough for me.


After a couple weeks of trying L’Oreal’s triad of cell renewal products — Day Cream with SPF 15, Night Cream, and Golden Serum — I feel younger enough to approach my upcoming fifty-second birthday with the optimism that I might pass for forty-five!


The recommended regimen is to apply the Age Perfect Cell Renewal Golden Serum morning and night followed by the respective day and night creams.

As I am a genuine “make-up free” Californian, I was a bit worried about greasiness or oiliness from the products. But I am pleased to say that the formula is light enough to feel natural, yet productive enough to add softness to my skin.

I appreciate the SPF 15 in the day cream, but was a bit worried that the somewhat strong scent would bother me throughout the day. The good news is that the scent dissipates rather quickly.

The night cream is slightly thicker than the day version, and while I was worried about clogged pores, it seems to wear nicely as I sleep. And I wake with refreshed skin in the morning.

Again, I’ve only used these products for a couple of weeks, but, so far, I am impressed with their ability to renew my cells and subtract some time from my skin. I am going to continue using this skin care regimen and will be back in a month with an update.

Who knows? Maybe by year’s end I’ll look like a thirty year old…



How to be an Inspirational Ager

As many of you know, Bitty is a social worker — a do-gooder. She sees patients of all ages, but, as we live in an aging society, she has many patients of a more mature age.

And they kick ass.oap-yoga-teacher

This week, for example, she began seeing a 96 year old whose quick wit and humor is reminiscent of a Catskills comic. Another client decided months ago that it was time to live her dream and enroll in the Fashion Institute of Technology… at the age of 68.

My point? It’s never to late. Follow your dreams. Live your life. Here are some pointers:

1. Embrace Aging. We’re getting older, yes, but we’re not dead. And regular activity — physical and mental — is proven to make us healthier. So go for coffee with friends, join a book club, walk or gym on a daily basis.

2. Don’t hesitate to laugh at the Aging process. Are some changes that happen to our bodies mortifying or, even, horrifying? Absolutely. Go to the doctor when necessary, screen for illnesses as warranted, ask questions of professionals and, even, friends. Then give in to the amusement when you can and laugh. We’re all in the same boat and this is why God, hopefully, gave us all senses of humor.

3. Set Goals. Always wanted to take an improv class? Go do it! Time to write that long-thought-about novel? Go for it! Hankering to travel, work with animals, make a movie? Then (to steal from Nike) Just Do It! Take advantage of all that technology has brought us in the last decade and learn to self-publish your book, make a video with your smartphone, or paint that masterpiece with an assist from computer software.

4. Maintain Relationships. Stay in touch with friends and family who love you for you and will help find the humor in the silliness of life (see Tip 2).

5. Be Prepared. Get all your ducks in a row. Last will and testament? Check. Advance directive? Done. Medical and financial power of attorney? Yes and yes. Talk to those closest to you so everyone is clear on what steps to take if and when the time comes. Then — Whew! — that’s over.

Now go live the rest of your life.

Nursing Care: Turn to the Best

Recently, I started volunteering as a “friendly visitor” and spending time with a lovely new older friend named Dorothy. Dorothy recently broke a hip, and I only visit for an hour once a week, so she spends a lot of time with her round-the-clock nurse, Christy.

Nurse-and-Elderly-PatientNow Dorothy is a sweetheart, and Christy is her angel. Christy monitors Dorothy’s health and behavior, administers her medications, assists with sanitary needs, and offers overall companionship. Dorothy is fortunate to live at home, but that may not be the case for everyone later in life.

So, if it’s not possible to remain at home, then where do we turn? Turn to professionals who are not only qualified, but who love their jobs. Turn to the award-winning best: Barchester Healthcare.

Visit one of their care homes, and you’ll notice the difference immediately. From the warmth of the people to the quality of the service, Barchester ensures its staff is happy so the staff ensures the clients are happy.

When it’s time to seek out nursing care, follow this link and be secure in your choice: Barchester.


The Breakfast Morbidity Club

death-breakfast-20110511-090504Today Bitty and I went to our favorite bakery for breakfast. We were discussing — as we often do — how I don’t listen. (In my defense, I listen when I want to — like any good husband.)

“If this is you at 51, how senile are you gonna be at 81?” Bitty says to me, between bites of her apple muffin.

I tear into my cinnamon danish. “I told you the other day, after I’ve lost it, just come up from behind me and shoot me.”

“With a gun?” She takes a sip of her coffee.

“Well, I’d rather with something less messy, like a poison dart, but I want it to be a surprise and I want the end to come fast.” I lick cinnamon from the paper.

“I’m not James Bond.” She points to the apple top of her muffin. “Hey, look, it’s a shrunken head.”

“Okay, then use a bullet. Just don’t blow out my face.” I acknowledge her muffin. “It’s more like a Cabbage Patch kid.”images

We sip and munch. Then I interrupt. “You think anybody else spends breakfast talking about how they want to die?”

“What’d you say?” Bitty asks. “I was already planning how to spend my free days in retirement after you kick it…”

And she says I don’t listen.

Get Mad, Not Sad

20120909-210601Last night I went to bed mad. Not Hulk-throwing-furniture-out-the-window-mad, but disgusted mad. Last week was an unusually frustrating and misogynistic week in Hollywood for me and it all boiled up as I tried to squash my emotions and just sleep.

And I thought to my self, “Self, you can sit on this anger or you can use it.”

I’m aiming to turn my anger into a positive. Here’s how:

1. Recognize that life is not fair. Not for me. Not for anyone.

2. Number 1 sucks, yes, but move on. Action is key.

3. Use anger to motivate, ridicule, self-analyze. But, for God’s sake, use it. Remember number 2: Action.

I write these rules for myself as much as for anyone else. An old therapist once told me that anger is simply depression begging for action. If I don’t use my anger as motivation, I will fall into the inactivity of depression. And if that happens, who wins? Certainly, not me.



Time Travel with Deepak Chopra

Aging Gals and Guys, have you ever dreamed about traveling through time? Well, we may not be able to visit Pompeii in its heyday or fast forward to the year 2070, but we can change our perception of time and even reset our biological age.











I’ve decided I want to be forty again.

And Deepak Chopra is showing me how. In a new interactive online journey, Mr. Chopra is meshing the biology of youth with the wisdom of experience. Chronologically I may be 51, but Timeless You is teaching me how to biologically be up to fifteen years younger.

Positive affirmations lead to belief and that belief becomes reality.

Before you dismiss this all as a bunch of baloney (and I say this to myself as well): “Why not try it?” Starting each day with a positive affirmation has got to be better than waking up deciding if I’m more repulsed by my morning breath or my crusted eye mucus.

So — up and at ‘em — Aging Gals and Aging Guys. Check out Timeless You at and get young with me.

Race ya!time-travel-10

A Note to My Younger Self

I’ve been fumbling for the last few days with what to write, which is to say I haven’t really been in the mood to write anything. I don’t have writer’s block exactly; more like writer’s lethargy.

letter-writingThen, as if from the gods, this morning I opened my website to discover a comment added last night on one of my long-ago-written blog posts. It was sent by a new reader, to whom I’ve given credit as the author of this post. It reminded me of a book I read last year entitled Dear Me: A Letter to My Sixteen-Year-Old Self, a collection of letters written by celebrities to their younger selves. I thought the book was a great idea and have (in less lethargic times) intended to begin a series of us regular blokes writing similar letters. Some of the book’s letters are uplifting, some are thoughtful and pensive. But, again, those letters in the book are from very famous and well-off celebrities. What, I wondered, would “normal” folks write? Would ours be a chin-up type note? Or an it’s-all-downhill-from-here ditty? Regardless, I’d like to know. Really. So if more readers are interested in sharing their own “letters to my younger self,” I’d be happy to post those as well. Leave a comment and I will get back to you. But, right now, thanks to Susan for finally giving me the kick in the arse I needed.

Here is her comment in it’s beautiful entirety:

Heather, I happened upon your blog after writing my own post on aging…and having nowhere to put it, I’m emailing it to you. I don’t expect you to do anything with it. I just want to post it somewhere. Anybits, I very much appreciate your viewpoint. Nicely done. Keep up the good work. ;)

letterHere’s my two cents:

Words from the future to my younger self:

You know how you feel now – so isolated and alone? Wishing someone/anyone would see you/hear you/recognize that you have value? That’s how it is, sweetie. You’re going to be feeling that for the rest of your life. Get used to it.

And you know how you’re always chasing boys around the playground? Writing their names on your notebook…sometimes making up a name, just so people will think you have a boyfriend? How the ones you like always let you know they have a crush on someone else? That’s pretty much the way it is. You might as well give it up now because you could be spending the rest of your life looking for someone, and he never shows up.

And then, there’s school. You never manage to get your work done on time. Everyone thinks you’re smart, but you’re really just scraping by. Too bad. You’re going to take those lousy habits with you throughout your life and it’s really going to fuck you up. I don’t know what to tell you about that.

You think you’re kind of funny looking now? Well, you are. You won’t change much. You’ll never grow out of the “interesting” stage. No one is going to be coming after you for you looks, let’s put it that way.

And friends. You never managed to figure out how to make it into the “in” crowd, and you won’t. You think you feel isolated now? Just wait a few decades. It gets worse.

In fact, just about everything gets worse. You can try all you like, and G-d knows you probably will, but it never makes much of a difference. You’ll just keep doing the same stupid things over and over.

So what can I tell you?

Don’t try to please anyone else. They won’t be there when you need them.

Start putting away your pennies, and putting cream on your face now. You’re not going to like what happens when you don’t.

Don’t bother looking for love. If it finds you, you’ll be lucky. And if it doesn’t, you won’t have wasted years of your life searching for something that isn’t there.

Try to find something you can trust and believe in.

Enjoy what you’ve got now.

It only gets worse.