My right knee has been hurting me lately (like for the last 20 years) so the other day I had it X-rayed before seeing the doctor. The X-ray tech took one picture and when she returned to set me up for the next shot, I said, “Don’t I get a lead apron?”
“Oh,” she said, “I can give you one, but we usually don’t offer after a certain age.”
“Because?” I prodded.
“After a certain age a woman is no longer likely to be pregnant.”
“Well, God knows I’m not pregnant, unless it’s the second coming…”
“After 50,” she said, tired of me already. “We don’t offer the aprons after 50.”
So, ladies, if we’re too old to be fertile, we’re too old to protect from unnecessary radiation. Just think of all those years I wasted (by choice) not breeding like a rabbit. Now I’m old, useless, dried up, and childless. Luckily, the X-ray technician came from a family of fourteen which is plenty of breeding to make up for my idle barrenness.
Oh, and, yes, for the remainder of my X-rays I did use the lead apron to cover my 51-year-old fruitless ovaries. Why? Because I am, women are, more than our reproductive systems.
Starting tonight, I officially journey into a new phase of my acting career: crime reenactor. (Cue music: Da Da Da Dum…)
First up is an episode of Unusual Suspects titled “Death of Innocence” in which I play a neighbor who witnesses a crime. It airs Sunday, February 23rd at 9pm on the Investigation Discovery network. If you should miss tonight’s premiere, no worries, it will also be repeated frequently.
Mixing the recipe for murder…Wahahaha
But Thursday things really heat up when I portray the killer in Deadly Wives’ “Acid Lady.” I am the bat shit crazy real-life woman who kills her perfectly lovely husband by boiling him alive in a vat of acid. While this is a tragically horrible true crime, I never had so much fun as an actress. Catch this show on the LMN network on Thursday, February 27th at 10pm eastern time. Again, this episode will air into infinity, so if you miss Thursday’s premiere, you can catch it in subsequent airings on LMN. In fact, watch it once by yourself, then a second time with your husband. That should fix any marital disagreements forever…
Sometime last year, I came up with my own happiness equation. Evidently, there are lots of equations for happiness out there, but this one works for me: Gratitude minus Expectations equals Happiness (G – E = H).
Clearly in 2014 I need a swift kick in the rear because I am forgetting my equation and my happiness quotient is suffering.
So I decided to get out in the world more and see how grateful I should be. Saturday, Bitty and I went to a volunteer orientation at the Motion Picture & Television Fund, the entertainment industry charity that “takes care of its own.” We learned about assisting seniors with ties to show business by helping them with everything from computers to grocery shopping. And I was pleasantly surprised to see several volunteers there who are younger than me, who are looking for grandparent figures in their lives.
Hopefully, I will make new friends and grow as a person, and I will be grateful should that happen. But, hey, no expectations.
Two things tend to dominate conversations about “staying young” or “feeling young.” First there are the dietary and physical adjustments that can keep you youthful in the physical sense. And second, there are the enormous undertakings (like taking up rock climbing!) that are meant to change your mindset to a more youthful one. Both can work, and if you want to feel or look more youthful and can manage these efforts, more power to you.
But sometimes the slow-but-sure relentlessness of the aging process just gets, well, old after awhile. Sometimes, you just need a break. A cheap thrill, slight adjustment or semi-reckless activity can be the perfect tonic. So, without any illusions that the following ideas will turn you into Benjamin Button, here are eight fun ideas for little ways to get a boost of youthfulness.
1. Take Up An Old Hobby
Feeling younger is often about reconnecting with yourself, as cheesy and pretentious as that sounds, and an old hobby ”be it playing soccer or playing piano, or anything in between” can work wonders in even one session.
2. Be An Idiot
It’s the whole “throw on loud music and dance around your room without a care” theory. If you have a given hour of the day when you’re just feeling kind of old, do something stupid. Embarrassment is the emotion of the young.
3. Go Home
Due respect to Thomas Wolfe, You Can’t Go Home Again is one of the nastiest, cruelest titles to anything, ever. Of courses you can go home again. You can always go home. That’s why it’s home. But going back to your literal childhood home can actually make you feel a bit old… instead, visit a place that meant something to you. Your old high school, your old college, a place you spent summers, etc. Sometimes there’s just something in the air in these places that does the trick.
Sigh… such a common and basic suggestion, but boy does it work. Many people find that they’ll admit things, or convey emotions in writing that they won’t verbally or mentally, and it can have a bit of an anti-aging effect on your brain.
5. Play Video Games
It doesn’t matter which game. Play a Super Mario Bros. game if it reminds you of childhood. Play a sports game or shooter if that’s what gets you going. If you’ve watched House Of Cards on Netflix, you’ve seen the point behind this: Kevin Spacey plays action-packed shooters simply to unwind from the sheer high stress “adultness” of his life.
6. Take A Gamble
That’s right: go gamble a bit. Or better yet, stay home and do it at your computer. You can find a huge array of real money gaming options at the Bet Fair casino online. Whether it’s live card games you like, or simply pulling digital slots to take your chance, turn on your computer and get a thrill. Adults ”you know, aging ones” are too responsible with money, anyway. Even if you lose a little bit, gambling is worth it for the youthful rush.
7. Irresponsibly Binge-Watch A Show
Hooray for Netflix, HBO Go, and all these things! It’s incredibly easy to zone out in front of a screen watching episode after episode of a popular show, and because it’s something no responsible adult with serious time constraints would ever do, it’ll make you feel a bit younger.
8. Pursue A Goal
Okay, so this is less of a momentary thing and more of a long-term thing… I had to throw in one. But if you can really dive in, nothing makes you feel more youthful than pursuing a goal actively. Whether it’s gaining the stamina to run a marathon, becoming a quality painter, building a successful blog, mastering a certain cooking technique… It’s the pursuit that helps keep us alive.
I’ve wondered lately given America’s — heck, the world’s — obsession with fame just what the cost of that fame really is.
The death of Philip Seymour Hoffman comes to mind. The genius with which he mined his characters for every ounce of humanity — pathetic and poignant both — takes a toll on an actor. On a person. How can it not?
As an actress myself, I understand the catharsis of touching on certain emotions and the wrenching agony of accessing others. I am not, nor will ever be, in the realm of Mr. Hoffman’s prowess. And because I don’t want to dredge up and dwell in those minefields of anguish, I never will be.
But another consequence of fame is being bluntly tossed aside when the business — and the public — is, for whatever reasons, done with you. Some celebrities adapt, even plan for, this phase in their careers. Many, many more do not.
In fact, I’ve encountered several of them not only in my acting life, but also in my “money” job as an English tutor. An idol from an 80s sitcom, a crush from a 70s cop show — I’ve met both in their homes. One is a divorced, but well-adjusted dad; the other is a hoarding recluse.
I guess what I’m trying to say is this: Life is hard. From our vantage point down on the ground celebrities may look like they have it better as they orbit the galaxy, but sometimes the spotlight is simply too bright. Remember, all stars — eventually — burn out.
Aging Gals and Guys, have you ever dreamed about traveling through time? Well, we may not be able to visit Pompeii in its heyday or fast forward to the year 2070, but we can change our perception of time and even reset our biological age.
I’ve decided I want to be forty again.
And Deepak Chopra is showing me how. In a new interactive online journey, Mr. Chopra is meshing the biology of youth with the wisdom of experience. Chronologically I may be 51, but Timeless You is teaching me how to biologically be up to fifteen years younger.
Positive affirmations lead to belief and that belief becomes reality.
Before you dismiss this all as a bunch of baloney (and I say this to myself as well): “Why not try it?” Starting each day with a positive affirmation has got to be better than waking up deciding if I’m more repulsed by my morning breath or my crusted eye mucus.
Creative calendar photographs may not be entirely new (remember the movie Calendar Girls?), but when executed as cleverly as this one from a German retirement home they are still really fun. Here are the recreations of twelve classic movie poses. The models range in age from 75 to 98, and the movies they pay tribute to include Titanic, Easy Rider, The Seven Year Itch, and Dirty Dancing.
Buiting, William Buiting, a svelte 89 years old
Dirty Dancing: Thanks to computer graphics, 92-year-old Johann Liedtke didn’t really have to lift Marianne Pape, 79
Easy Rider’s Walter Loeser (left), 98, and Kurt Neuhaus, 90
Irmgard Alt, 79, and Siegfried Gallasch, 87, have got the fever: Saturday Night Fever
Joanna Trachenberg, 81, and Horst Krischat, 78, as Giant’s Liz Taylor and James Dean
Martha Bajohr, 77, as Cabaret’s Liza Minnelli
Blues Brothers Margarete Schmidt (right), 77, and Lothar Vishnevsky, 76, are on a “mission from god”
As Marilyn Monroe, Ingeborg Giolbass, 84, has got The Seven Year Itch with Erich Endlein, 88
Just a spoonful of sugar and a flight over London for Mary Poppins’ Erna Schenk, 78
Erwin J. von der Heiden, 80, also known as Rocky
Holly Golightly or Marianne Brunsbach, 86, is having Breakfast at Tiffany’s
King (and Queen) of the world: Titanic’s Erna Rutt, 86, and Alfred Kelbch, 81
No, I’m not talking about the golden age of Hollywood (although I do love that period). I’m talking about the resurgence of old broads leading the charge — and awards — in today’s Tinseltown.
For the first time in years, I actually feel optimistic about this business I love (well, love/hate). Because this year’s awards season has pulled a reversal and nominated its oldest skewing spate of actresses in years. The average age of best actress nominees for the Academy Awards is 55; in fact, only one — Amy Adams — is under 40 and she’s 39. Of course, this list includes Meryl Streep, 64, and Judi Dench, 79, both acting goddesses whom have been acting in high-caliber fare forever.
Courtesy of Merie W. Wallace/Paramount Vantage / October 29, 2012
But my favorite “overnight fame” story this year is that of 84-year-old June Squibb of Nebraska. An Oscar nominee for supporting actress, Ms. Squibb has been acting for pert near seven decades. Talk about tenacity.
Until her 60s, she took small parts on Broadway and in regional theaters. She didn’t even begin her film career until 1990.
This all makes me love Ms. Squibb, not only because I relished her nominated performance, but because it gives me hope that at any age dreams can still come true.
So here’s to you, Ms. Squibb. Whatever happens on Oscar night, you are an aging gal who inspires.
As women age, do we grow into our own skin? If we’re lucky we do.
I remember my 20- and 30- something selves frequently wishing I had abs of steel or less cellulite. (Of course, “cottage cheese” thighs are hard to tone when their owner loves chili cheese fries.)
I’ve long wondered what I want more: An enjoyable life or a enviable life? Do I want to be the skinny bitch who incites jealousy? Or do I want to partake of life’s caloric pleasures? Frankly, this is a no brainer; I’m not going to Paris without sampling their croissants or attending a Dodgers’ game and not having a Dodger dog. Hell, I’m not even going more than a night or two without imbibing my beloved glass of wine.
And you want to know the really interesting part? A recent study agrees with me. It turns out that, last fall, a British retailer released results of a study stating that women who wear a size 16 are the happiest and most comfortable in their own skin. (This thrilled me to no end until I realized that a British size 16 is an American size 12; I chose to wave my Union Jack and continue ingesting my Thin Mints and Chardonnay.)
The bottom line is that the research found three-quarters of larger women are happy with their appearance, nearly twice as many as those who are size 6 (an American size 2). Well, no wonder, those girls are hungry! (That’s why they’re called skinny bitches…)
So, here’s to feeling happy — and, yes, healthy — in our own skin. Now, pass the gravy…