So Long, Farewell

That is from my favorite movie musical ever, The Sound of Music. And just as that song in the movie led to the Von Trapp family climbing over the Alps to their freedom, I’ve decided it’s time to say adieu… to you and you and you.the-sound-of-music-picture-3

After five years, I’m wrapping up and unplugging my baby from the internet.

I want to thank those of you with whom I’ve made friends or reconnected. It’s been fun and more than a little comforting to hear from smart, funny, kind folks especially when I’m of the mindset that such breeds are dwindling. So thank you… to you and you and you.

I will keep alive my personal website for acting purposes and hope to write other projects in various media. Please feel free to keep in touch via

Until then… Auf Wiedersehen. Goodnight.

My Parents’ Child

I don’t know when, exactly, it happened, but I have turned into my parents. Case in point:

live_a11I remember vividly in 1985, watching Live Aid (if you don’t know what Live Aid was you have no business reading this blog). I was not at the concert (I’m not that cool), but watching on the tube (when MTV was actually music television), and when Madonna came on, I went bat shit crazy. My father looked at me like I was an alien being, which, at 23, I was.

“What has she (Madonna; he didn’t even know her name) done? Has she invented a vaccine? Or produced anything…” he paused, but his pause implied: “Produced anything other than this crap music?”

I was horrified, and whined something like “But she moves me!!” as I continued dancing to “Holiday.”

Thirty years later, and when I see the Madonna of 2015, I think “What has she done? Has she helped society? Listen to this crap music!”

Now, to be fair, I believe Madonna is somewhat philanthropic and, therefore, helpful to society. But I also think her current music is crap. Because I liked the Madonna of 1985. The rougher, weightier Madonna of pop music. When I hear that, I become 23 again.

New Year, Younger Skin

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My New Year’s resolution for 2015 is to pull a Benjamin Button and age in reverse. After hitting 52 in November, I’ve decided to test my math skills and turn 51 this year.

Fortunately, I’ve been using L’Oreal Age Perfect Cell Renewal for the past few months, so I’m already ahead of the game.

I can report that after a couple months of using the trio of products — Day Cream with SPF 15, Night Cream, and Golden Serum — my skin sincerely feels softer and more supple. Plus, those fine lines have disappeared. That’s a big PLUS.

I confess I’m not a big wearer of makeup, but I have been using the serum and day cream on a regular basis. I’ve used the night cream as the weather has become colder and drier. None has given me a greasy feeling or clogged my pores. Neither do I have too much of a shine. Simply a healthy, luminous sheen. My skin radiates “flourishing California babe.” Now I just need to work on those cottage cheese thighs.

Cyber Monday Deal

Disclosure: I am participating in a Vibrant Influencer Network campaign for L’Oreal Age Perfect. I am receiving a fee for posting; however, the opinions expressed in this post are my own. I am in no way affiliated with L’Oreal Age Perfect and do not earn a commission or percent of sales.

For those who opted out of Black Friday or just want some great deals today, Cyber Monday, then read on. L’Oreal has a gift so perfect for us Aging Gals that “perfect” is even in its name: L’Oreal Age Perfect Cell Renewal.

AP-CELL-RENEW-ASSETS-04-440x471I’ve been using their products for a couple of months now and love them. My skin is softer, firmer, and younger looking. Click here for your coupon.

Splurge on a gift for yourself this holiday season (start now and see results before those holiday parties!). And if you’re a mensch, then buy some cell renewal products for your friends. After all, you’re worth it… and they are too!




10 Reasons I’m Embracing Aging

the-health-benefits-of-red-wine1.  A glass of red wine a night can add five years to my life.

2.  Brain games on the computer to help my memory.

3.  My gray hair looks like those expensive highlights I used to pay for, but it’s free!

4.  “Good times and bum times, I’ve seen ’em all, and, my dear, I’m still here.” (Thank you, Stephen Sondheim. And Elaine Stritch.)

5.  No more pimples.

6.  I’m closer to being a cool old broad like Judy Dench:

7.  Fuck it. What’s the alternative?

8.  At long last, chocolate is proven to be good for me.

9.  Brain games on the computer to help my memory.

10. Finally, I’ve aged into my muffin top.


Who Wouldn’t Want to Look like Julianne Moore?

I am participating in a Vibrant Influencer Network campaign for L’Oreal Age Perfect. I am receiving a fee for posting; however, the opinions expressed in this post are my own. I am in no way affiliated with L’Oreal Age Perfect and do not earn a commission or percent of sales.

When L’Oreal approached this Aging Gal through Vibrant Nation to try out their new line of skin renewal products, who was I to say “no”? If the products are good enough for their spokeperson, actress Julianne Moore, they’re good enough for me.


After a couple weeks of trying L’Oreal’s triad of cell renewal products — Day Cream with SPF 15, Night Cream, and Golden Serum — I feel younger enough to approach my upcoming fifty-second birthday with the optimism that I might pass for forty-five!


The recommended regimen is to apply the Age Perfect Cell Renewal Golden Serum morning and night followed by the respective day and night creams.

As I am a genuine “make-up free” Californian, I was a bit worried about greasiness or oiliness from the products. But I am pleased to say that the formula is light enough to feel natural, yet productive enough to add softness to my skin.

I appreciate the SPF 15 in the day cream, but was a bit worried that the somewhat strong scent would bother me throughout the day. The good news is that the scent dissipates rather quickly.

The night cream is slightly thicker than the day version, and while I was worried about clogged pores, it seems to wear nicely as I sleep. And I wake with refreshed skin in the morning.

Again, I’ve only used these products for a couple of weeks, but, so far, I am impressed with their ability to renew my cells and subtract some time from my skin. I am going to continue using this skin care regimen and will be back in a month with an update.

Who knows? Maybe by year’s end I’ll look like a thirty year old…



How a Pet can Save your Life

No, I’m not talking about Lassie pulling Timmy from the well. I’m referring to how animals can reduce stress and lower blood pressure, by stemming loneliness and depression. Pets can give us a purpose and even stimulate learning (gotta read up on how to take care of your new “baby”!).

Senior_pets“Dogs — and other pets — live very much in the here and now. They don’t worry about tomorrow. And tomorrow can be very scary for an older person. By having an animal with that sense of now, it tends to rub off on people,” says Dr. Jay P. Granat, a New Jersey psychotherapist.

That said, it’s important to choose the right pet. Here are some tips:

1. The pet owner should be involved in this decision. Do not just pick a random pet for your older parent and call the deal done. That could — and has — led to disaster. For example, active puppies can scratch and jump and wreck havoc on elderly skin.

2. Consider the personality traits of the older person. Is she set in her ways? Has he been a pet owner before? Dog lover or cat person? Is your senior disabled? Homebodies may appreciate a cat who doesn’t need to be walked as does a dog. On the other hand, if social interaction is desired, find a dog who matches the pace of the future owner.

3. Then consider the pet. Puppies are tons of work (just like human babies are loads of work). An older dog has already calmed from its puppy phase. A three-year-old dog is twenty-one in human years, isn’t that better than raising a toddler and teenager again?

4. If finances are an issue, think about less costly pets like a fish or a bird. Or if you need the cuddliness of a dog or cat, rescue a pet and contact the local humane society for help in paying vet fees. Lastly, consider looking into therapy animal programs and see if they’ll visit.

As Jack T. Dog would say, “Arrffff.” Which means, “Enjoy your pet and thank you for adopting!”

Aging Gal and Jack T. Dog

Aging Gal and Jack T. Dog



How to be an Inspirational Ager

As many of you know, Bitty is a social worker — a do-gooder. She sees patients of all ages, but, as we live in an aging society, she has many patients of a more mature age.

And they kick ass.oap-yoga-teacher

This week, for example, she began seeing a 96 year old whose quick wit and humor is reminiscent of a Catskills comic. Another client decided months ago that it was time to live her dream and enroll in the Fashion Institute of Technology… at the age of 68.

My point? It’s never to late. Follow your dreams. Live your life. Here are some pointers:

1. Embrace Aging. We’re getting older, yes, but we’re not dead. And regular activity — physical and mental — is proven to make us healthier. So go for coffee with friends, join a book club, walk or gym on a daily basis.

2. Don’t hesitate to laugh at the Aging process. Are some changes that happen to our bodies mortifying or, even, horrifying? Absolutely. Go to the doctor when necessary, screen for illnesses as warranted, ask questions of professionals and, even, friends. Then give in to the amusement when you can and laugh. We’re all in the same boat and this is why God, hopefully, gave us all senses of humor.

3. Set Goals. Always wanted to take an improv class? Go do it! Time to write that long-thought-about novel? Go for it! Hankering to travel, work with animals, make a movie? Then (to steal from Nike) Just Do It! Take advantage of all that technology has brought us in the last decade and learn to self-publish your book, make a video with your smartphone, or paint that masterpiece with an assist from computer software.

4. Maintain Relationships. Stay in touch with friends and family who love you for you and will help find the humor in the silliness of life (see Tip 2).

5. Be Prepared. Get all your ducks in a row. Last will and testament? Check. Advance directive? Done. Medical and financial power of attorney? Yes and yes. Talk to those closest to you so everyone is clear on what steps to take if and when the time comes. Then — Whew! — that’s over.

Now go live the rest of your life.

Grow Back Your Hair — And Your Confidence

While I’ve made many confessions on this blog, none may be more embarrassing than this: I am bald.

densefx-and-texture-effect-122x350Okay, that may be a slight exaggeration. But in all honesty, I have battled bald spots throughout my scalp since my early 30s. (I remember visiting my doctor in those days and begging for a solution… a solution that never came.) I’ve always had baby fine hair… after I finally grew hair (until I was eighteen months I was fat and bald and nicknamed Mussolini). In high school and college, stylists would comment that they’d never seen such fine, thin, soft hair — and mean it as a compliment — but my hair and I were already mortal enemies. It refused to hold any styling even with 80s-era hairspray.

Little did I know that my hair would up the ante in my 30s and 40s by falling out in baseball-sized clumps with every shampoo. For twenty years, I have been my own shedding Golden Retriever.

By my 50s, I had given up.

And then my knight in shining armor galloped up in the form of Cerafill Defy by Redken.

Now I’m going to show you some photographic evidence, so don’t run away screaming. (Yes, I know, my bald spots light up the front of my crown like a shiny hood ornament; I am constantly self-conscious.) Witness this BEFORE photo:



Ignore all the wiry gray hairs and focus on the hairless cue ball above my left eye. To me, that clump of white skin is mortifying.

So when I learned that I could participate in this promotion for hair-thickening products from Redken, I jumped at the chance.

Redken sent 100 bloggers four samples of their products including Defy shampoo and conditioner, and Maximize Dense Fx thickening treatment and texture effect. I was asked to use the products for two weeks and then share the results.

As for the shampoo and conditioner, I must say they were somewhat medicinal. The shampoo did not lather enough for me, and the conditioner left my hair stiffer than usual. After towel drying my hair, but while it was still damp, I applied the Dense Fx thickening treatment to the roots and massaged it through my scalp. Lastly, I sprayed on the texture effect before styling. Both the thickening and texture products are to be used between shampoos to keep that hair growing.

Now, Redken advertises “up to 9,000 more hairs after one use!” I’m not sure about that, but, yes, I did see some buds growing (albeit my fuzzy little fine hairs — why can’t I have Barbie-esque locks?). For me, it took the majority of the two weeks to witness a difference in hair growth. I also relied on their tips to maximize your hair, including using a diffuser on my blowdryer, crimping my hair, and creating a zigzag part to disguise my thin spots.

And here (again, please don’t run screaming) is the AFTER photo:



Between the products and the tips, I do feel my hair is thicker. If there’s one product I will continue to use it is the Dense Fx thickening treatment. It seems to be the crux of the product line and, honestly, there are menthol-infused Tea Tree shampoos and conditioners out there that I prefer.

But check out Redken’s products — and tips — for yourself:

Redken Cerafill website

Redken Salon Finder

The bottom line is that this experience helped give this 50-Something back a little confidence. Maybe I’ll never have the exact hair I want, but I can have more of it and I can style it better. That alone makes this Aging Gal content.

Here’s the skinny: I am participating in a Vibrant Influencer network campaign for Cerafill powered by Redken. I am receiving a fee for posting; however, the opinions expressed in this post are my own. I am in no way affiliated with Redken and do not earn a commission or percent of sales.


Nursing Care: Turn to the Best

Recently, I started volunteering as a “friendly visitor” and spending time with a lovely new older friend named Dorothy. Dorothy recently broke a hip, and I only visit for an hour once a week, so she spends a lot of time with her round-the-clock nurse, Christy.

Nurse-and-Elderly-PatientNow Dorothy is a sweetheart, and Christy is her angel. Christy monitors Dorothy’s health and behavior, administers her medications, assists with sanitary needs, and offers overall companionship. Dorothy is fortunate to live at home, but that may not be the case for everyone later in life.

So, if it’s not possible to remain at home, then where do we turn? Turn to professionals who are not only qualified, but who love their jobs. Turn to the award-winning best: Barchester Healthcare.

Visit one of their care homes, and you’ll notice the difference immediately. From the warmth of the people to the quality of the service, Barchester ensures its staff is happy so the staff ensures the clients are happy.

When it’s time to seek out nursing care, follow this link and be secure in your choice: Barchester.